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Before you can post or reply in these forums, please our online community. the online community Community rules Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak. Welcome Unicorndoggee, not only am I not forced to answer. We care so very much here and want to support you and to help you through this time.
It is so great that you have found this space to come and to get some help. This is a really safe space so please feel free to share as much as you feel comfortable to. I am so sorry that you have not found the counsellor helpful, can I suggest though just as we don't get along with everyone in life, cousellors are people too and it takes sometimes a few to make the connection and therefore get the help that we need at the time.
I really love your profile pic. If so, there is something you are good at as that is a really great pic. Life is a really hard place to be sometimes and it does seem so unfair and very cruel, however I think with some support you can see a brighter tomorrow and that this is a time in your life and does not have to be the rest of your life.
Huge hugs to you, please stay safe and if you are not safe please call and have an ambulance come, you matter so very much and are so very worth it Unicorndogge. Great to chat to you some more, and the picture is so very good, there is something that you could do to ease the mind and have a hobbie to enjoy as well. You are very good at it. I understand the looming old age thing, although I am 45 on Friday so 20 to me seems like a whole life time ago!
It is never, never too late to start something new or start anything for that matter. I think I am still trying to figure out what I want to do when I grow up. I just started Uni doing Mental Health and Psychology online, I am now volunteering for BB, there are so many things that pop up in your life, it is never too late. Is volunteering something that you might like to try, there are so many organisations out there and you just never know who you might meet or even find a new interest, you may not like it at all and that is apart of the learning.
I hear you say you have waited for so long know and nothing has happened, how would you feel about seeing the GP and chatting to them and putting a plan in place for you. To try to get your journey to wellness started? Sometimes we have to throw ourselves into things to break the cycle and to get life back on track, as scary as that might seem, it might work too. There is a saying that I love and think about it from time to get me back on track "if you always do what you have always done, you always get what you've always got" This time of year is hard, new year, new expectations, a whole new year ahead of nothing, but can I tell you to shut that voice down in your head that says you are not worth it, you so very much are, and you can, you can make small steps each day and choose you and choose happiness.
I done volunteering once when I was 16 and liked it but I was living with my nan. Plus I still live with my dad and his girlfriend. That is great to hear that you have tried to do some volunteer work before and that you liked it, there are so many things that are around and sometimes they don't jump out at you to think of. There could be old age homes that you could visit and even do some drawing with the residents, sometimes these people are forgotten and love the company.
There could be animal welfare groups or things like that. I can see you like animals so perhaps even at a vet or the likes might have some work that you can do to chip in and fill some time and feel good about you and productive too. I am so sorry to hear that you don't feel that home is a great place to be and that you struggle with your dad's girlfriend, that is really hard.
I hear that you feel like she is really critical of you and that she doesn't support you. I am not sure about how you would feel about chatting to her and asking her why she does speak like that to you, I know this might be confronting but it might help in clearing the air with her and making home more bearable. You could even write her a note to let her know how you are feeling if you cannot manage a conversation? I wish I was more likeable.
My d Im lonely and sick of it is always angry at me because we are completely different people we both have opposite opinions and she thinks and treats me like I am 10 years of age. Anyway sorry and thanks for being here. I just wanted to say something about "NORMAL", I am not really sure that any of us are "normal" everyone has something that they are not sure of, or not happy with, or think people judge them for, I Im lonely and sick of it that with autism you might feel that people judge you, perhaps they do, but that is on them, and not to be taken on by you.
You are perfect the way you are and you love you the way you are. You have every right to go out there into that world and try new things, meet new people and have a happy life. It might start with just one small thing to get you out of the house and to meet some new people. Just one step,then another step. I can hear how overwhelmed you are and I am so very sorry that you are feeling so very sad and alone.
It really is tough.
I just also wanted to say about your comment "I just want to get out but I don't know what is going to work for me". I think all of us have to try to do something a little scary or try something new, if it doesn't work Im lonely and sick of it is fine, but it might be amazing and you have found something you love to do. You are so worth it, you are not worthless or hopeless at all. I think another thing is sometimes we have to be a little bit vulnerable and put ourselves out there, if people don't like us that is fine, but some people will like us, and they are the ones you hold dear.
If you dont get out there though, you will never know. I have tried things, I went to tafe, and even these social things and not one thing has done me any good. Their is no hope for me and I am just a waste of space.
This is the only thing that people talk to me on and are nice. It is so very hard, very hard to be a young person these days and I am talking to others here too with the very similar story to yours, you are not alone and you are not worthless, it is hard, to connect and to make friends and to have the courage to keep trying and trying when all you feel is rejected and hopeless. You are a young, 20 year old woman and you want what every person does, some friends and someone to care and someone to love you. That is mostly what we all want in this life so you are not foolish for wanting that too, the fact that you have autism is no way going to impact the person who you meet when they are the right person for you.
It does take time, however you have to get out there to find them I think that some time out of the house and away from your thoughts and your dad's girlfriend would be really good for you. This will also help in that you will have some cash of your own too. You just never know who is out there waiting to meet you Hayley and you deserve happiness, so go grab it girl! I know it might seem scary but I will be here to help you through and to chat and support you Hayley, one step at a time, one foot then another foot infront of the other.
There is hope and there is so much for you in the future and it is not always going to feel this bad, that I know. My d girlfriend wants to know everything I do and I have no privacy whatsoever she checks what Im lonely and sick of it do on my phone so I always delete my browsing history.
I really do want to get away from her and I have even thought of going homeless if I had to. My dad and his girlfriend thinks I am too dumb to be able to keep a job maybe their right there is nothing practically useful about me. Not around here anyway I live in a touristy place.
That is pretty unfair that at 20 years old you don't have some privacy on your phone. Do you feel like this is something that you could ask next time she asks for your phone? It could be very polite and quiet and something like "I was just wondering what it is that you are wanting my phone for have I done something to cause a problem? Have a think about that and see how you feel. If you are not doing anything to cause alarm, which I am sure you are not, I am not sure why she needs to see that. Also I feel it should be your dad not her that is checking That is really rough that you are left to do the housework.
Are you expected to do all the work? Does your dad and his girlfriend chip in too? I wish every bit of my being that this job comes through for you, it would be great for you to get out and about and to mix with some new people and have a sense of purpose and make you feel good about yourself. Also perhaps tire you out a bit too which will help with the sleeping. I am so sorry that you feel like your dad thinks you are dumb, that is really hurtful Hayley and I am so sorry that you are going through this.
Just a thought but is there some other family that you have you could stay with? Even just for awhile to get some confidence and get away from the current environment? Things really can get better Hayley and tomorrow really can look different to today. You need a break and some positive things in your life and I think that will make a huge difference to you. Please hold on, I hear how tired you are and my heart breaks for you.
You are such a delightful person and I wish everything wonderful for you. My d girlfriend is at work all day so when she comes home she is all tried and grumpy. I had to live with my nan for 2 years when I was 15, And I just caused problems so there is no way she is going to take me in even now.
I understand that you have done something in the past that you are not proud of, and that is part of life, we do make mistakes and as long as you learn from them. You are not stupid, you are human and we do silly things and we make mistakes and it is how we get up from them that matters. You can share here as much as you feel comfortable to, if it helps to talk about it I am here, if not that is totally fine too.
At some point though your dad's girlfriend and you dad have to give you back some trust and in return you demonstrate that you have learned from your mistakes.Im lonely and sick of it
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